Honesty is the best therapy

I didn’t realize it as clearly as I have now the great truth behind the old age axiom: “Honesty is the best policy.” I think it was Cervantes who said it. But why do we tend to hide from our feelings, our dreams, even our necessities. I am not so much interested in the reason why we behave the way we do; I am much more fascinated by the alternatives. Life is always full of them.
But going back to my point: honesty does wonders. Let me just say that by honesty, I don’t condone the need to misbehave; I don’t promote selfishness either. Honesty is not about spilling your confidential guts out. We need to keep certain areas of our lives private in order to function as a healthy individual. But these areas shouldn’t be kept so if there is no real need to. For instance, if we want to go to the bathroom, we should be able to say so without needing to go into details of our intentions in there. Those are private. I can’t make it any clearer than that. Which, by the way, brings me to a referential point: we need to have an idea of what we want and pursue it every chance we get. This, of course, does not apply to everything. When it comes to dating, it’s always sane to make time apart. But before I deviate from the subject at hand, I’d say that it’s necessary to exercise some prudence in our journey to self-fulfillment when it comes to others. We must be sensible to their feelings when we want ours met. Honesty makes beauty flourish and I suspect that treacherousness doesn’t pay in the end. In meeting our expectations, we are willingly sacrificing certain means. We shouldn’t continuously fall into the habit of having our way without paying the price of it. Being honest with ourselves and others brings a sense of character and control that keeps us sane. If we are to look at people who often lack this perspective, we would see that theirs is a world of mischief and chaos where a lie is told and a chain reaction is put into effect. Now this whole business of being true to ourselves and intentions shouldn’t implicate that we surrender our secrets on demand, but rather to make a claim at sanity (did I say that too often, well, it’s never often enough!). Be sensitive to other people. In doing so, you will take that burden you carry on top of your shoulders and feel freer than before; you will save them time and you will have more time for your own projects.