The Case for Monogamy

The case for monogamy is simple. Deep down inside, the other person is to reflect my own self and as such, if it is through the eyes of a solid foundation, a team, a courageous half, as good-looking and smart as we can possibly find, and, just like us, special and unique. If we are to value ourselves over others, in the long run nothing will withstand the test of time. Because we love ourselves balancedly, or should anyway, then it only makes sense that we look forward being reflected on a being that also values us. And in order for them to value you, you must cast a value on them. How would you feel if your significant other were to betray or lie to you. Would you like it? If the feeling is something that bothers you, then don’t go on. Take a step back: every moment you take the wrong step, you’re not only straying away from your purpose; you’re also losing control over the course of your life. If you are to gamble with what you find most important to you, then be prepared to pay the price.
Of course, relationships can exist where the norm is not always the case. And even those that are within the norm also tend to differ from one another. Every single one of us is immersed in a unique experience, and I am not to tell you that “monogamy” is superior to any other type of union. Whatever works for you, continue doing; chances are you know what you like and, what’s more importantly, know how to get it. If it works, chances are too that you’re working on it. Constantly improving, adapting, learning, giving, demanding, is the only way a measure of substance and meaning can be attached to this life.
Monogy works in many ways. It is not easy, of course; nothing of great significance comes out of laziness and stagnation. Of course, monogamous people go wrong, and face daily the “temptations”. It’s not easy being monogamous; just like is not easy having a great body. It takes discipline, hard work and a plan of action to be carried out impeccably. Monogamy brings up the best of all posible selves. Integrity is something many can boast of but more than a handful who have mastered their urges, the natural instincs, and know how to be animal with his/her insatiable lover. Yes, if a sexual life is of importance to us, we shouldn’t do without it. Fidelity comes oh so much easier when we fuck regularly. And by “regular”, I mean at least four times a week. I’ve gone months in which there is not a single day that passes by that I don’t. And just like that, too, there have been many months where I just lay back and stay away from the entire world. And it’s like fasting, I do without the things I find more lustful of, as a way of raw discipline which grounds my baser motives and brings out the most meaningful me. For as long as it lasts, I want to cherish and enjoy time together with very firm feet on the ground. Like states belonging to a union, ours survives better simply because we don’t depend on one another. We are two strong, individual and considerate beings who have come together. So the world must be ready, because nothing will be able to stop us for as long as this adventure is on. We play and do not hurt intentionally. We fight and make up sex. It’s all part of the same recipe, and monogamy may not be the remedy but it sure can cure you of that awful ailment termed loneliness.