Is change for everyone?

All ideas are, to an extent, fictional and this serves a function. Imagination can be a healthy way of socialization. We dream of tomorrow the next-day, tomorrow within a year or so, tomorrow payday, tomorrow when I’m off. This very moment right now is what we know and even this moment sometime back was a mere idea, a thought. Now, we all have a way in which we start our day and as the day progress, it’s almost converted in a routine. This is perhaps why that the moments that do not reflect a routine in our lives are the ones we tend to associate with either pain or pleasure. Not that there isn’t pleasure or pain in our daily lives. But when we step out of the ordinary, usually fascinating things start to happen. It’s this sort of realization, this mind frame, which makes it possible for us to conceive the idea of change. Now, change, for instance, in a positive light, it’s something many of us say repeatedly we want. In fact, there’re aspects of our lives in which we feel some improvement may be exerted. Why, then, is change something we say we want but rarely acquire? Why is it such an effort to actually conquer our demons and get on with our lives the way we would like? Some people argue that this is due to habit. Aside from simplistic, this view doesn’t quite resolve anything. If it’s so hard to change what has been wired up in our associative way of behaving, then there is no solution to the puzzle. The very same people that pose habit as the main obstacle for change argues that habit can be destroyed by habit. That doesn’t represent a solution to our problem either. The sole notion that individuals can change their bad habits by replacing them is just not an answer to our original question: why most people simply don’t? Losing weigh, quitting smoking, pursuing a formal education, saving consistently and enough, to mention a few paradigms. The reality is still simpler: most people won’t change because change is not easy. That said, many try to but only a handful of these actually are capable of attaining the benefit of their endeavor. Winners, sad to admit, are the biggest losers. In order to obtain the degree of excellence to which most would like to ascribe themselves to, there’s a path of trial and error, and, of course, the ones who have traveled down that road know that it’s paved on sacrifice, endurance, patience and failure: qualities that in their very own are scarce if singled out and all combined are not found in the average human being. Hence the indictment made earlier. To win it takes a lot of losing and guts to risk, and in order to succeed, you must fail. Pretending that change is possible for everyone is such a Christian fantasy. The idea that we are all equal and capable is just laughable. Yes, it’s true that most of us don’t precisely exacerbate our potential to the very fullest. But it’s also true that talent is not something everyone is endowed with. Therefore, the argument that we can all change in all the ways we can is something that only the very hopeful can truly believe. To all the Anthony Robins in the world: if it were true that the world in reality is full of potential to be uncovered, why is it that we are in the mess we are? Even the sagest of all men have had their brush with imperfection and at her hands fought to excel. Why are we worried about pushing everyone forward when in fact is the same exact mechanism that is slowing us now? Besides, after a while of telling someone over and over that they are capable of anything, you may be doing them a disservice. The real talent is unearthed sometimes when instead of faith we deposit real incentives for the individual. Talent is such that even in the case of those who were not given real motives or inspirational speeches, went out and did it their own. Why, you may ask, made them do it? What would their answer be? Because no one thought I could.