Inner thoughts and struggles

What are the fears surrounding your departure from Isabel? I fear she will be heartbroken and lonely, and her anxiety will triple, and her mood will reach new lows. I fear that she won’t be able to cope and my baby will suffer as a consequence. I fear Vangelis will be left to be as undisciplined as never before. I fear I will be alone in the world. I will miss them. I will feel selfish after Isabel has given me the best in the world, a beautiful and healthy baby, having deserted her when she most needs me. I feel my family will be against it since it will mean that Esteban will not be close to us. After all, she’s his mother and kids go where moms go.
PLAUSIBLE SOLUTIONS: Logically, Isabel will suffer and you will suffer as well if the separation becomes a reality. But the more you sit around and wait for the inevitable, the more pain that will be accumulated and the more you’ll both suffer in the end. The real question is not whether you guys will suffer but what will you guys suffer for. Being apart from her will signify a personal growth on your behalf and maybe later on with a clearer mind you guys can go back together if things apart don’t work out. But do so as a conscious choice and not out of need and dependency. Yes, the baby will suffer if you allow it, not if you stick by the principles of sanity which demand that we first make ourselves happy in order to spread happiness all around. How can you make him the reason to be stuck in a relationship that no longer functions? Work on the relationship by taking her out, buying her a thoughtful gift here and there and making time to strengthen the family bond. Take them out and spend time together. Challenge yourself by being the person you can now be and stop complaining so much about the things you can’t achieve right now. Instead of thinking yourself stuck in a hole, make plans to fix the things that are under your power to implement as of now. Exercise again, eat healthier, write with a lot more discipline as of now, cancel cable, save more, pay your bills on time and look for a place to start anew. Later on you can worry all you want about living the single’s life which is really not nearly as satisfying as it is believed and more troublesome than your imagination paints it.