How to find love and beauty... PART TWO, the conclusion

Hasn’t it occurred to anyone that seeking happiness in any other place than ourselves and our conscious decisions implies a possibility of being enslaved by the demands and ways of others, is, in a way, deceiving us. We must come with joy to the encounter of illusion, but not fool ourselves by it. If the other person is not ready, and by ready I do not imply that they submit themselves to our caprice and desires, but as an individual is unsuitable for happiness then we move along. We should seek to be happier than we are, yes. But not happiness. This one, as a possibility, should always reside in you. Besides, everyone wants people who they can’t either have or they will not make happy. It’s as if we had programmed ourselves for failure in anticipation. Those mostly developed personalities, the aces of our culture, the ones who possess beauty and mind, are, sad to admit, scarce, but they are involved with their lives and engaged with existence. Successful individuals don’t sit around prey of their circumstances, complaining of their bad luck; alchemists is what they are, architects of horizons. I’ve tended to be happy with less; now I want to be happier with more. Whenever I fail, I will find solace and comfort in the certainty that I have always a place to fall back on: my resolution to be happy. But we can’t expect to be happy if the person we choose isn’t; we could make the best of the worst for sometime, if necessary; but the idea is to make things better for the long run. Focus on the things you want, pursuit the life others can only dream of. Listen but don’t pay too serious attention to what they say; act and behave like you care and in time you will. Endorse a cause, take a different course if the results awaited are not met. Live a little, sin once in a while, talk to friends often. The remedy to all of your ailments lie at your feet. Don’t be a martyr for too long. But always care for those who cared for you. Don’t be afraid of what you want, throw down some walls, burn some cities, indifference is not my game. If you like what you see, then go and get it; if it doesn’t want you, there will be many others. Friendship is always the first alternative. Then you will deserve love, and it will render its weapons to you and there will be still something more to add. Something more to err on, something to fix, something to say. But our job is mainly reconstruction of all these old structures that are starting to crack and crumble. Make space for the new by tearing apart the old. More important than being reasonable is being flexible.