Friday, November 05, 2004

Written way before Bush's reelection


Recently, society hasn’t take notice. We have gradually become more conservative, more hypocritical. This crisis is due to more than a single factor. One, it’s that we have inherited a time of technological prosperity, and we’re sort of trapped in an ambivalence, between freedom and security. (It’s worth noting that money behaves the same way; is it perhaps because we are money?) Two, women have become more economically independent; an aspect that has propelled her options and changed her position in the world; at the same time it redefined the gender roles and ultimately relationships. They are not difficult to start a relationship, they are liberated too, and they enjoy their new found freedom which increases their female mystique. But they are careful not to get tied down with a child, marry or inhabit without marriage for long or not use condoms for the first sexual encounters. But emotionally, women tend to aspire for prosperity in communion, partnered with a provider older than her; or a tall dark and handsome intelligent guy who is not completely broke and has an artistic knack; a leader of a masculine temperament; a great lover who understands her in body and mind, and the choices are rarely accessible on their own, not to mention combined. Usually a provider isn’t always a great lover, who understands her in body and mind, and a tall dark and handsome intelligent guy seems a bit narcissistic, and if he is not one to fool around behind her back then he is either gay or not manly enough. The idea that women are only interested in the size of our wallets is somewhat exaggerated. There are seven billion of us and But if they were to choose, they’d pick a bartender who is six feet tall, built and handsome, definitely not broke, over the boring out of shape balding doctor who seems so financially prosperous. The smart pretty ones will get their careers started off the bat, fool around and even fall madly enough with the looker but marry prestige. A beautiful woman has had the best and now it’s up to you to be up to the task. Here are several tricks that will put you ahead of the pack but won’t guarantee you pussy:
1) Appear marketable, independent and confident. If possible, active and involved in amazing projects or with connections, exaggerate a bit. Have your own car, your studio or roommate, but preferably live on your own.
2) Have a high hygiene, dress masculine and tasteful, and smell well.
3) Be courteous and gentlemanlike with a masculine tact.
4) Listen to her actively, ask for feedback. Relate to her stories but always pace and listen as if you were absorbed by her story, relate to her in a manly tone and attitude.
5) Let her do most of the talking, but laugh casually or use humorous remarks, if any. Too often we make the mistake of trying to remember all of these advices. We become tense and nervous. What we must bear in mind is that we must keep our cool and drop our anxiety, as if we were out with one of the boys instead of a date with a beauty queen.
6) Work out regularly, shower thoroughly, polish your nails, and wash your mouth.
7) Seem a bit disaffected, a little like nothing is good enough for you. But don’t be considered. The idea is to put forward an image of coolness, graveness, maturity. At least, at the beginning, it seems crucial. And even though it’s not supposed to last long (always bear this in mind), give it your all as if it were the only moment you will ever have. Take her to an exciting spot. Don’t overspend. But be a giver. Thank her for her time.
8) Be straightforward but above always show eternal patience and confidence. You don’t want to exhibit your hunger but you don’t want to starve only waiting either. There is plenty of fish in the sea. Besides, you’re there to have fun and fun doesn’t always mean sex. It’s better than being home watching cable. Some women require a little bit of time, and if you want her enough and think that it has a good chance to go somewhere, then give her the time. But be realistic and don’t hang out for too long. If you do decide to give her time in this time and date, don’t settle, keep moving and be on the lookout. Anyway, you have nothing to lose. Patience doesn’t mean inertia. You make other moves to keep the momentum going.
Smile and be grateful for what you had, and move on to the very next thing as soon as your plan is not coming along quite the way imagined. Above all, bear in mind that you are seeking happiness, and not pain. If there’s a little agony and fatigue, deal with it. Give space so that you can breathe. Open dialogues and leave some room. Remember, is a game of indifference the one that gets the attention. Don’t saturate others with your ever present disposition. Be unavailable, if you can afford it. When your interests are not put into a single effort, then your possibilities increase. But if you stumble upon someone worth a try, go ahead and lose your head cautiously. Feelings often make a mess and then your reason has to clean house. Feel, but feel good. Always find ways to inspire yourself, create a vision that only a dreamer wide awake could carry through.

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